By the Knowsy team · Updated 15 October 2026

60 questions to ask your partner (that actually start conversations)

Whether you've been together three weeks or thirty years, the right question can turn an ordinary evening into a proper conversation. Here are 60 of our favourites, from the Knowsy question library — grouped so you can pick the mood.

Jump to: Favourites · Holidays & Travel · Interests & Hobbies · Food & Drink · Memories · Childhood · Future & Dreams · Gifts & Surprises · Silly & Fun · Deep & Meaningful

How to use these questions

• Take turns: one asks, both answer. You'll be surprised how often your answers differ.
• Don't rush. Follow-up questions ("why?", "what happened next?") are where the good stuff is.
• Start light and work up to the deeper ones.
• Try guessing your partner's answer before they give it.

Favourites questions

Easy openers. Perfect for a new relationship, or for finding out whether you really know your partner's go-to answers.

1. What's your all-time favourite film, and when did you last watch it?
2. Which word do you secretly love using?
3. What's your favourite sound — rain on the window, waves, a crackling fire?
4. What's your favourite kind of weather?
5. What's your favourite scent for a candle or perfume?
6. What's your favourite thing we've bought together?

Holidays & Travel questions

Handy for planning your next trip — and for discovering who's secretly a plan-every-minute traveller.

7. Beach, city or mountains — which wins, and why?
8. What's a place in the UK you'd love to explore properly?
9. Would you rather go somewhere hot or somewhere snowy?
10. Do you like to try the local language, even badly?
11. Would you go on a holiday with no phones at all?
12. What's the best hotel or place you've ever stayed?

Interests & Hobbies questions

Find the things you'd love to try together, and the ones you'd rather leave to each other.

13. What hobby would you take up if time and money were no object?
14. What are you proud of being quietly good at?
15. What's a game you're surprisingly competitive about?
16. Do you prefer team sports or doing your own thing?
17. What's a skill you'd love to have instantly, Matrix-style?
18. What's a hobby you think is underrated?

Food & Drink questions

Low stakes, high opinions. Great for a dinner date or a long car journey.

19. What's the one dish you could never get bored of?
20. What would you love us to learn to cook together?
21. What's your favourite biscuit for dunking?
22. What's a food from your childhood you'd love to eat again?
23. What's the best restaurant meal you've ever had?
24. Would you rather cook dinner or wash up?

Memories questions

For couples who've been together a while: the moments that matter, in each other's words.

25. What's your favourite memory of us so far?
26. What's a small, everyday moment with me that you treasure?
27. What's a moment when I made you laugh until it hurt?
28. What's a memory from the last year that you want to hold on to?
29. What's the best weekend we've ever had?
30. What's your favourite photo from before we met?

Childhood questions

Who your partner was before they met you — and the stories that shaped them.

31. What were you like at school?
32. What's something from your childhood that shaped who you are today?
33. What did you get up to in the summer holidays?
34. What chores did you have to do at home?
35. What was your first concert or big day out?
36. Did you ever win a prize or award as a child?

Future & Dreams questions

Gentle ways into the big conversations about where you're heading.

37. Where would you love us to be in five years?
38. What's something you'd love to do before you turn the next big birthday?
39. How do you picture our home in ten years?
40. What would your dream day look like ten years from now?
41. Would you rather have a big wedding, small wedding or no wedding at all?
42. What do you want more of in your life right now?

Gifts & Surprises questions

Quiet intel for birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas.

43. What's the best present you've ever been given?
44. Flowers, chocolates or a handwritten note — which would mean the most?
45. Big birthday celebrations or something low-key?
46. What's a gig or show you'd love tickets to?
47. Breakfast in bed or dinner out — which is the better surprise?
48. What's an activity day you'd love — driving, spa, flying, cookery?

Silly & Fun questions

When you just want to laugh together.

49. Which animal do you think I'd be, and why?
50. What's my most annoying habit that you secretly find quite sweet?
51. What would you do if you were invisible for a day?
52. What's the strangest thing you've ever done for a dare?
53. What's the most embarrassing song you know all the words to?
54. Would you rather have fingers as long as your legs or legs as long as your fingers?

Deep & Meaningful questions

Bigger questions, asked gently. Best saved for a quiet evening.

55. When do you feel most loved by me?
56. What's something you've never told anyone but would like to tell me?
57. What do you think is the secret to a lasting relationship?
58. How do you like to resolve a disagreement?
59. When do you feel most confident?
60. What do you admire most about the people closest to you?

Keep the conversation going

Asking good questions is one of the simplest ways to stay close, and it gets easier with practice. If you'd like a steady supply, sent back and forth through the day, join the Knowsy waitlist.